45 days ago I was unfriended. Not by choice, but by death, by lung cancer. After Julie’s death, I pretty much quit facebook; taking it off my phone and only replying to notifications. If Julie’s gone, who else cares to see my story and images – why post and why engage when my most encouraging yet objective critic isn’t online? She’s the only one outside of my immediate family who’d never actually unfriend me. Doesn’t everyone else use this platform to stalk and to scrutinize each other, why provide the material? Boy did I needed a kick toward positivity: do it for hope – do it for all those you love who remain – do it for your faith!
Last night when letting my dog out, I looked up to see two doves on a telephone wire with an incredible cloud show in the background. Two “old” birds just hanging out, enjoying each other’s company for no real reason. Not worrying about what everyone else is up to or posting selfies at the latest and greatest location, but truly together, taking in nature and feeling content. Julie called this goal, “a relaxed joyfulness.” The wave of grief, my annoying sidekick these days, knocked me for a loop. It hits so randomly, ugh.
Yet, today, less than 24 hours later, an envelope arrived on my doorstep from my dear high school-befriended-again-via-Facebook friend, Jon, and his wife who live across the country in AL. What on earth could this be!? Inside, a handwritten letter (side-note: Jon, the fit I find with my camera, you most definitely find with your pen!) explained why I’d been given a hand-crafted work of art by Jon’s friend, Nizhoni Thompson.
Through your kindness, Jon and Wanda, I’m inspired to resume –
“wandering the world, seeking the sublime, capturing creation, glorifying God”
befriending the unfriended; restoring power when the Lights have seemingly gone out for good.
We only get one shot – let’s make it beautiful
for us and for others.